"And there I stood, in front of him...naked....uncovered...exposed...open...undressed......" Five words, all with the same meaning; synonyms of one another. What does the previously mentioned quote even mean? There are so many ways that we can stand bare and naked. There are different things/parts that we can expose and undress. We can disclose so many parts of our being; we can bring to light our body, soul, both at the same time.. How many times have you taken off your clothes in front of another being? How many times have you stood psychologically naked before someone's eyes? Which is more intimate? Which do we expose more often? Which don't we expose enough? Do people place too much value on physical nudity and not enough on psychological nudity? Think about it. Neither one is easy. It can be difficult to take off all your clothes in front of someone in a fully lit room. Simply because we are humans and full of imperfections. There's not many things you can hide when standing naked in a fully lit room. How many times have you maintained eye contact with someone while undressing before their eyes? Think about it..... Moving on to undressing your mind. Tackling psychological nudity is a little more complex. Seems like now a days it's mostly about thrill of the chase.. the longer you ignore someone, the less you reveal, and "play hard to get" the more intrigued they are by you. WHY THE FUCK? In my most honest and humble opinion if you're captivated by someone and they are everything you've ever dreamed of, and you do absolutely nothing but admire from afar, keep your distant, just keep your fingers crossed that they'll one day miss you and just come running to you.... You're an idiot, to say the least. I don't know how people can go about just pretending they don't like someone, giving them the silent treatment, ignoring them as a whole so the other person can want them more. That's just not me. And actions like those are so ignorant in so many ways. I mean, sure it works, there's scientific data that can prove that we all want what we can't have. And we will always want it until we have it. My point exactly. So many people are convinced that silent is mysterious.. no shit, it's mysterious. Do you really want to fall for someone because of the things they don't do and don't say? I'll leave that to others. I like some silence, I appreciate silence, but only if I already know what you're thinking. Have you ever argued with someone face-to-face and they have nothing to say? They just stay quiet and not say one word. How mysterious is that? Do you enjoy that type of mysterious silence where the majority of the time you want them to scream and say something. You yearn for them to argue with you or agree with you, for them say something, anything. How come now a days everything is so subliminal, and have to be so mysterious? Why not fall in love with what we know? Is it because when people say too much we don't know what to do with those words? Do they frighten us? Do they disgust us? Do our brains get bored because they no longer have to decipher what the other person is feeling for us? I don't know. What I do know is I feel no urge, lust or desire to build a relationship where there is need to deny or hide emotions from the beginning, just so someone else could be attracted and interested in me. From experience, I can say that lust for mysterious silence is not beneficial to the relationship in the long run. You can only keep quiet for so long and you can only be aloof for so long. When you expose yourself and the mystery finally fades, that is it. I want to be able to tell you that I love you, and that I miss you, and that I'm thinking of you twenty five hours all eight days of the week without you thinking I'm obsessive or needy. I need to feel that I can say those things to thee person without it backfiring at me. No, it doesn't mean I want to see your face and hold your hand all the time. It doesn't mean I want to talk to you every second of every day. Those aren't even obsessive statements. They shouldn't even come off as needy, but since those words are rarely uttered as soon as we have someone say them to us we freak out. I need to feel comfortable enough to be able to reach out to you in instances that are appropriate and called for. I want to feel comfortable enough to be psychologically naked before your eyes and be able to live with that. What's the right amount of information to disclose? Is there even such thing? I often hear people say "I said too much" but never "I didn't say enough", myself included. Which is worse? To say too much, or not to say enough? To me, to not say enough. Too many people walk around not knowing they are someone's world, the reason why they wake up each day and put forth maximum effort in bettering themselves. That's so sad to me.... Get naked, emotionally naked. Rejection, heart break, tears, those can't be prevented, they can't be avoided. Choose what/who is worth the risk and get naked. Too much physical nudity and not enough emotional nudity. Don't fear that the mystery will fade. Captivate them with what you say and what you do and keep them intrigued. Yes, yes, yes. Just imagine how awesome it would feel to tell someone exactly how you feel about them with no fear of what could happen after. Then imagine how beautiful it would be to lay in a bed with them naked. With no regards of what can go wrong, stress free, pure serenity. The weight of the world just lifted off of your shoulders.... There you have it. That's my take on the subject. Sadly, not everyone has the courage to do that. It's okay. I just hope this gives some people some insight and a different perspective of the subject in matter. That is all.
