female to female defamation and verbal backlashing is disgusting. disgusting. actually, it's disgusting regardless of the sex involved. i have to deal with this all time time. and it kills me. i am a happy individual. i am a thankful individual. i personally feel as if in order to be happy for someone else, you need to be happy with yours first. and i am so happy and thankful for mines... i will be the first person in a room to congratulate and praise someone for their merit. i was awarded the employee of the year award at work a few days ago, and a coworker decided to go on Facebook and post very negative, and plain disgusting comments about me. My supervisor showed me her post and asked me how i'd liked to proceed and if I wanted to report it to human resources. frankly, i was in complete shock. I did not feel one ounce of doubt, insecurity, or question on my abilities and the work I've put in to get where I am today. Because I know I made it where I did for myself and by myself. I know the people that I work with and for conceived notions of me equal those of my own. I couldn't help but feel pity for her. That she had to take time out of her time to vent on Facebook about her personal inference of me and my image. I just couldn't believe someone who looks at me in the face everyday could have such strong negative things to say about me and not to me. So i began to question to myself, is her life that miserable that she had to really, regardless of if her belief about me were valid or invalid, go on a social network to vent about me. For an accolade? Does she really not have people in her life to praise her and remind her of her worth that she has to go and literally shit on someone else's accomplishment..? the thought of that just baffled me. I told my supervisor that frankly she's already damaged her own image enough for me to do anything about the matter. her opinion truthfully didn't offend me. if anything i was offended that she'd put herself in those predicaments over my accomplishments. who knows what she has outside the work place that she feels like this is her place to shine and to try and make those of us who are legitimately just on our own happy lane doing our own happy thing feel like we aren't doing right. if anything this experience just moved me for the better. i had to thank everyone who is involved in my life and has made a difference in my life. who've helped me and have supported me to get me to where i am today. i couldn't have done this without them. i could of been her and she could of been me. but no. i am me. and I am so thankful for it. and i just want to inspire and get the message across to people that at the end of the day, you only have what you have. whether you've worked for it, stolen, lied, cheated, earned it. you can't lie about your character. everything you let into your life and everyone you let into your life will end up building or destroying your character. and i just really hope and wish that everyone in this world would take that into consideration. are you happy with yourself? can you be happier? are you happy for others? could you be happy for others? are the people in your life worthy of you? are you worthy of them? what's your space like: is it negative, is it positive? do you drain others or do you fuel them? do better. for yourself. and you will directly and indirectly improve and help in the evolution of humanity. because apparently after trillions of years, as a race, we devolve every day. don't be one of those people. for the sake of human kind and for your being, just don't.