someone asked me what compatibility means to me:

i think too many people lose the essence of themselves trying to transform into the "missing puzzle piece". i don't ever want that to be me & or my partner. human relationships shouldn't be restricting but rather encouraging. people develop/thrive/grow in different situations/environments. relationships should be freeing. if we could both continue to develop while respecting each other's environment/pace/conditions meanwhile motivating and supporting the others growth and progress, that's compatibility.

yes, my partner will have flaws.

i have flaws.

the flaws should be minimal and easily overlooked. if i ever catch myself asking someone to change for me or changing for someone because i am asked to, i hope one of us realizes that we are incompatible and sets the other free.

if our similarities out-weight our differences and we value each other as much as we value ourselves, i hope we'd be flexible enough to adapt to each other without losing our "self".

he laughed, and said "that's why you are single".